Monday, September 8, 2014
A phrase that I have heard time and time again is, “You’re so pretty for being in a wheelchair.” This is said in different forms and sentences but the surprised tone is always the same, as if a person with a disability should not be attractive. I’ve had friends in wheelchairs get the same “compliments.” And, true, the speakers all intend for their comment to be a compliment. However, it sends a different signal. It signals something beyond the individual and suggests a larger problem: People in wheelchairs, or with disabilities, should not be good looking.